A conversation with myself

If I could give advice to my younger self, here’s what I would tell her:

1) Your husband is worth the wait! Not only does he show up, but he’s got a PhD and 6-pack abs. He is seriously a genius, but his greatest trait is his sweet and tender heart. He thinks you hung the moon, and anticipates your every need. He even does all the cooking and helps with laundry. Seriously, quit whining about being single.

2) Your baby is the cutest thing ever, and you’ll be so glad you didn’t become a Mom any sooner. Babies aren’t always rainbows and butterflies. Trust me, there will be days that you will feel like you have given up your entire world for that little creature. Because you did, and you would do it again…and again…and again. But while you wait, try to appreciate the simplicity and selfishness you get to have in your life now. It will keep you from resentment in the future.

3) To be a good wife, mother, person in general…you must care for yourself. Being able to recognize and tend to your own needs is a blessing for those around you. While everyone needs a little help, being able to pull yourself out of the “bad-day-blues” alone is a really big deal. Learn what helps you “reset”. (Hint: new lipstick and an ice cream cone works wonders for you)

4) You have time! When God is in the details, time becomes irrelevant!

5) Stop forcing things. Sometimes guys stop texting back for no reason, some weeks your work schedule falls apart, some days you’re just not meant to wear winged eyeliner. Accept that you aren’t in charge. The things that don’t work out well on their own…just aren’t meant to be.

6) 99% of the time, your parents are right. You should listen to them more. Especially when your Dad tries to talk to you about money.

7) Speaking of money, put yourself on a budget and STICK TO IT. It will spare you a lot of anxiety and guilt. This will also keep you from having to tell your hot husband (hot fiancée at the time) that you have about $5 in your savings account and you owe the IRS your soul.

8) You’re not fat.

9) Take inventory of the life you have now and be thankful for it. This is a learned skill, not a natural human instinct. You are blessed beyond belief and God’s grace and generosity will continue to overwhelm you more with each passing day.

10) You are where you are meant to be! This season of life is shaping you into the woman that your future needs! Don’t wish away your days, thinking “I’ll be happy when…” BE HAPPY NOW!